Exercise: What Gets in the Way of Your Desire?

We all have an internal accelerator that responds to things that turn us on, and a brake that switches arousal off when our mind or body senses a reason to hold back. This can be triggered by all kinds of things, including stress, body image concerns, past experiences, or unresolved tension in a relationship. Understanding which brakes are most active for you is often the first step toward change. If you are working with me as an individual, the exercise below focuses on the physical barriers and practical realities of your life that can quietly erode desire. If you are a couple, we will explore this together as part of a much broader conversation that will also address the emotional blocks leading to disconnection.

If you would like to learn more about the science of sexuality, check out Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski.