Alexandra Suarez
“The self is a process, constantly constructed in moments of connection and disconnection with others.”
About My Work
My work is dedicated to exploring the intersection of love and sexuality — from the relationship we have with our bodies to the way we experience intimacy and connect with others. To understand how relationships evolve, why passion dies, why we cheat. To delve into desire, heartbreak, pain and the beautiful intensity that comes with human connection.
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Storytelling forms an integral part of counselling and healing. As a relationship and sex counsellor, I’m here to listen to your story; to open up the conversation on love and sex so that you may process your experiences and find new levels of understanding. With this intention, I set out to create my practice — a safe and supportive space where we can bring to light those truths we are too afraid to talk about. A place where we can learn about our sexuality, foster self-love, love for our bodies and partner(s). Perhaps most importantly, a place where we can cultivate the relationship we have with ourselves, and in the process use our shared experiences, our stories, as a catalyst for positive change.​​
Counselling Offerings
Sex Counselling
Sex counselling offers a dedicated space to explore the intricacies of sexuality, whether individually or as a couple. In our work together, you will be able to explore your beliefs, desires, and behaviours and gain insight into what shapes your sexual expression and relational dynamics. Together, we will review medical factors that may be contributing to sexual difficulties, uncover how your autonomic nervous system responds to pressure and performance anxiety, and openly explore the role sexual scripts, personal experiences, religion, and culture may have played in limiting you from fully embracing your sexual identity. Through this collaborative process, we’ll empower you to gain deeper insights, build resilience, and take actionable steps towards embracing your authentic sexuality.
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Common Challenges Explored in Sex Counselling:
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Addressing differences in sexual desires, frequency, and other intimacy-related challenges.
Healing from sexual trauma and reclaiming your sexuality with confidence and self-compassion.
​Working through layers of shame to understand how they’ve shaped your sexual identity and experiences.
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Understanding sexual behaviour that feels compulsive and its impact on personal wellbeing and your relationships.
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Understanding your sexual orientation – who you love, who you fall in love with, and what turns you on.
Exploring gender identity and erotic possibilities as someone who is assigned male or female at birth (AMAB/AFAB).
Navigating the challenges of ethical non-monogamy and exploring open relationship dynamics.​
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Couples Counselling
Couples counselling is not only a resource to turn to during times of conflict or challenges, but also a proactive investment in one of the most important aspects of our lives— our relationship. By exploring counselling, couples can strengthen their connection, improve communication, and deepen their emotional intimacy before issues arise. It’s an opportunity to nurture the bond you share, enhance mutual understanding, and build a solid foundation for growth, ensuring that your relationship thrives over time, regardless of the obstacles you may face.
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Common Challenges Explored in Relationship Counselling:
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Communication Issues – Difficulty expressing feelings, active listening, or misunderstanding each other.
Conflict Resolution – Struggling to resolve disagreements without escalating tension.
Trust and Betrayal – Healing from infidelity, dishonesty, or breaches of trust.
Emotional Distance – Feeling disconnected, unloved, or unsupported by a partner.
Life Transitions – Adjusting to major changes like marriage, having children or moving to a new country.
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Parenting Differences – Disagreements about parenting styles, responsibilities, or co-parenting dynamics.
Approach
​To talk about relationships and sex is never merely to discuss intimacy and physicality — it’s to explore family, culture, gender, power, consent, religion, pleasure, and belonging; to explore who we are and who we aspire to be. By fostering open conversations, I hope to dismantle shame and help others navigate the evolving landscapes of connection and identity with honesty and compassion.
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My counselling approach is integrative, drawing from a range of psychological theories and practices to support your unique needs. I help clients develop a deeper awareness of how their upbringing, family dynamics, and physiological states shape their inner world — particularly in relation to adversities, trauma, emotional regulation, and sexuality.
Sexuality Counselling
My approach to sex counselling is grounded in a biopsychosocial understanding of sexuality—recognizing that our experiences of desire, intimacy, and pleasure are shaped by a complex mix of physical, emotional, relational, and cultural influences. This perspective allows us to explore the full picture of your sexual self, with compassion and curiosity rather than judgment.
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Many people carry experiences—whether named as trauma or not—that continue to impact how they relate to their bodies, boundaries, and relationships. Creating a sense of emotional and physiological safety is central to the work we do together. I move at your pace, integrating trauma-informed care throughout our work and supporting you to be guided by consent and choice.
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Drawing on polyvagal theory, we start to unpack how your nervous system shapes your responses to closeness, touch, and arousal. Many sexual difficulties make more sense when we view them as protective responses to past experiences, pain, or disconnection. When we understand these patterns, we can begin to work with them gently, rather than pushing through or pathologizing them.
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I also integrate somatic awareness into our work—supporting you to tune into the sensations and signals of your body. While there’s no physical touch in sessions, we might explore how certain emotions show up in your body, where tension or numbness lives, or what helps you feel more grounded. This kind of awareness can be especially meaningful for those who are rebuilding trust in themselves and their bodies.
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Sessions are paced collaboratively and grounded in each client’s readiness and goals. Whether you're navigating issues around identity, desire, intimacy, or healing, our work together aims to foster integration, agency, and a renewed relationship with your sexuality.​
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Relationship Counselling
My work with couples is rooted in attachment theory, differentiation, and parts work—all of which help us understand the deeper emotional layers and internal dynamics that influence how we show up in our relationships.
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We begin by identifying and transforming the negative interaction cycles that often leave couples feeling stuck or disconnected. Through this process, we explore each partner’s emotional experience and unmet attachment needs—what drives the patterns beneath the conflict. Attachment theory offers a framework for understanding how early relational experiences shape how we seek closeness, manage distance, and respond to vulnerability in adult relationships.
Parts work brings another layer to this: often, different "parts" of us carry old beliefs, fears, or protective strategies from earlier in life. For example, a part might shut down to avoid rejection, while another part might escalate to feel heard. In couples work, we begin to notice these parts with curiosity and compassion, rather than judgment. When each partner starts to recognize their own internal system, it becomes easier to stay grounded in conflict—and to respond to one another with more understanding and choice.
At the same time, we work on differentiation—the ability to stay emotionally present and connected without losing your sense of self. This is what allows intimacy to deepen without becoming overwhelming.
A session might begin by exploring a recent moment of tension or disconnection, and then gently turning toward both the dynamic between you and what’s happening internally for each person. As we do this over time, the process supports more than just clearer communication—it helps build deeper self-awareness, emotional safety, and a relationship where both partners feel more able to show up fully and authentically.